Making Love


Photos by Janelle Maas
(Published in the February 2010 issue)

Chocolate and roses do not guarantee romance, so we knew we had to up the ante for this Love Issue blind date. To fashion passion, we decided to have the daters meet...and then immediately disrobe.

Tonight’s blind date adventure begins with a couple’s massage at Spa Gregorie’s in Del Mar, followed by an oceanfront, candlelit dinner atop Sbicca Del Mar. If this isn’t the formula for romance, we’re throwing in the towel (and wearing nothing underneath).

Before Emily and Chris arrive, let’s review their pre-date interviews.

Where are you from?

Emily: I grew up in Kentucky, then moved to New York, where I lived for six years while finishing school and starting my career. I moved to San Diego about a year after; I couldn’t take the cold for another winter.
Chris: I’m a NorCal transplant from the South Bay-Gilroy.

What do you do for a living?

Emily:I’m a former computer geek (programmer) turned insurance agent. Talking to people, working for myself and making my own schedule is much more fun than sitting behind a screen for eight hours a day.
Chris: Vice President of Sales for a hedge fund broker-dealer in Del Mar.

Describe your personality in seven words.

Emily: Sweet, goofy, confident, charming, animated, ambitious, determined.
Chris: Affable, entertaining, always down for good time.

What are you looking for in a date?

Emily: Really, just to have a good time and get to know someone new. Sometimes it’s just as good to find a new friend from a date than to find a love interest.
Chris: Someone who is a lot like me-easygoing and can hold a conversation. Nothing worse than having to be the one doing all the talking.

Rate yourself physically on a scale from 1 to 10.

Emily: Hmm, I’m going to say a nine. There’s plenty I can improve upon, but I wasn’t exactly hit with the ugly stick either.
Chris: Eight, because anything higher might come off cocky.

What’s your favorite thing about yourself?

Emily:That if decide I want to do something, I don’t let anything stop me from doing it.
Chris: Definitely my height; I’m told there’s not enough 6’4” guys in San Diego.

What do you hope will happen tonight?

Emily: Never having had a massage, I’m hoping I can make it through it without looking like someone having a seizure-I’m ticklish. And I hope the date is fun and not awkward.
Chris: I’m really not sure what to expect, I just hope that we have a good time together and some laughs. I’m really looking forward to the massage.

What do you hope your date will look like?

Emily: Tall! I have a thing for tall, football-player build guys. And manly. Me likes manly men.
Chris: Hopefully someone I’m attracted to. I have a very specific type, although that type has been evolving as of late. I normally go for taller girls, 5’8” to 6’, model types.

Emily and Chris meet for the first time at Spa Gregorie’s, where they slip into something more comfortable. After getting acquainted and enjoying some champagne for about half an hour, Chris and Emily are ready for action.

Donning nothing but robes, they head to Spa Gregorie’s couple’s sanctuary, where dim lighting and serene melodies set the mood. Lying naked next to each other, the daters barely talk during their one-hour massage. Will their first shared sensual experience lead to a second? Let’s find out...

How’s it going so far?

Emily: It’s going good. It’s interesting. Went in, had champagne, got naked, had a massage. I never got naked right off the bat before.
Chris: Going well. It’s obviously a great first date. A little unique in terms of going and having a couple’s massage when you first meet someone, but she seems real cool, easy to talk to.

How was the massage?

Emily: It was good. I never had a massage, so it was very relaxing. It would have been more relaxing if I was by myself-it was quiet the whole time other than the mood music. It was a little awkward.
Chris: I get massages pretty regularly, so it was nice. It was Emily’s first time. The masseuses were great.

Is this the kind of person you would normally date?

Emily: Yes and no-very tall, which is what I like, but I think he’s younger than me. I would typically go for someone that has a little more of a mature vibe, but I’m liking him more and more as we continue hanging out. He has a youthfulness to him, which is good, but he’s a little bit of a partier. I’ve had some bad experiences with partiers lately.
Chris: I usually date girls a little younger; I’ve also dated older. I wouldn’t necessarily approach her at a bar.

Do you have a lot in common?

Emily: I think so. We work in sort of the same industry and we seem to be hitting it off well.
Chris: We have enough to talk about-she has a dog; my roommate has a dog. I don’t really know if we have stuff in common.

Rate your date from 1 to 10 for physical appearance.

Emily: That was the question I was dreading. With the height and the build-definitely my type. I would give him an eight.
Chris: I’ll rate her on my buddy’s system: 1 to 20. I’d give her a 16.

And for personality?

Emily: I would give him a six or a seven, but I think he’s a little nervous right now. I think it can get a little better.
Chris: I’d give her an eight.

What’s the best way the date could end?

Emily: Dinner, a few drinks, hang out and laugh a lot. We’ve been laughing quite a bit.
Chris: Dessert.

Does your date want to kiss you right now?

Emily: Yeah, probably.
Chris: You have to ask her.

Do you want to kiss your date?

Emily: I don’t know. We have to see.
Chris: A true gentleman does not kiss and tell.

What if he/she tried to kiss you?

Emily: I’d kiss him back.
Chris: I’d give her a hug.

Will this prove to be a hot date? Too early to call. Let’s see if things heat up over dinner at Sbicca Del Mar. After a short drive to the coast, Emily and Chris are seated for a would be romantic dinner on the roof-deck at Sbicca Del Mar.

With a candle flickering on the table and waves crashing in the background, the couple is finally left alone for the remainder of the evening. PacificSD calls the next day to see what we missed.

Overall, how was the date?

Emily: It was fun. The massage was great, but it was a little awkward. I think it would have been better by myself, so I could have actually relaxed. The dinner was really nice.
Chris: As far as blind dates go, I think it wentreally well.

How was Sbicca?

Emily: Great. We had the best table in the house. We started with ahi tuna and avocado tartare, then I had the filet for my entree. The bottle of Zinfandel that we shared was good, too.
Chris: It was awesome. We started off with a few cocktails and ordered a nice bottle of Old Vine Zin from Sonoma Valley. I had the sea bass; it was delicious. Emily’s filet was good, too. I’m already looking forward to going back.

Describe your date’s sense of style.

Emily: Chris’ style is appropriate for his age; it’s a little young for me. I didn’t dig the faux-hawk hair thingy.
Chris: She seems to be pretty casual.

What happened after the magazine crew left?

Emily: We finished dinner then headed over to Wine Steals in Cardiff to meet up with a girlfriend of mine. We had a bottle of wine, and then Chris left to go to a party or something.
Chris: We hung out and had dessert, and then drove up to meet her friends in Cardiff for a drink.

Was there a kiss or romantic moment?

Emily: Nope, nothing really romantic.
Chris: A true gentleman does not kiss and tell.

What dating advice would you give your date?

Emily: I think Chris just needs a date that’s more age appropriate. I tend to go for older guys that are looking to start to settle down and don’t need to be out partying every Friday and Saturday night.
Chris: I thought the date went really well; nothing to change per se, just no real chemistry.

What two things would you change about your date to make him/her more compatible with you?

Emily: I’d add about 10 years to his age and about 20 pounds to his weight.
Chris: Someone who’s a little younger than me and who has friends in common.

Will there be a second date?

Emily: No. I’m still single for all you tall, football-player-build guys who are over 30.
Chris: All signs point to no.

Despite our best efforts, PacificSD failed to ignite a burning desire last night. Was it because Emily doesn’t dig faux-hawks? Was it that she only scored a 16 out of 20 on Chris’ buddy’s scale? We may never know, but one thing is for sure...

Making love is harder than it looks.

Celebrity observations

“How do you wear a robe and not get action?”-Hugh Hefner
“He’s not too young for me.”-Samantha Jones
“Well, there’s your problem...romance happens under the table.”-Bill Clinton
“I guess, even in Del Mar, the surf doesn’t always meet the turf.”-Bing Crosby
“I pity the fool who don’t love a Mohawk!”-Mr. T