Head Over Heels
By David Perloff / Photos by John Audley
Mayra is a full-time model and a Maxim magazine 2011 Hometown Hotties finalist. She was born in small-town Texas and currently lives in La Jolla. Bud, a mechanical engineer living in Mission Beach, grew up in Virginia Beach, Virginia. He moved to San Diego nine years ago.
The two are about to meet for the first time at the famed La Valencia Hotel for a drink overlooking La Jolla Cove, which they’ll be kayaking across in about an hour. Before they arrive, let’s review the pre-date interviews.
PacificSD: What do you do for fun??
MAYRA: I love to ride dirt bikes, hike, generally just be outside, cook for my friends, hit up some beach bars and go out downtown.
BUD: Surf, snowboard, play golf, basketball, football, tennis, beach volleyball-pretty much any active activity that is fun, I enjoy.
What are you best at?
MAYRA: I’m a champ at singing in my car.
BUD: I’m not great at any one thing but am pretty damn good at most things. My ping-pong skills are pretty legit.
What’s the sexiest thing about you?
MAYRA: My favorite physical feature that I consider sexy is my lips.
BUD: Sexiest? About me? Not too sure me and sexy go hand in hand.
What are you looking for in a date??
MAYRA: Physically, I’d like my date to be in shape and taller than me. I’m not too specific about hair and eye color, but admittedly I don’t typically go for blondes. And he better not look like he spends more time on himself than I do. Personality-I’m hoping he’s outgoing, easy to converse with and able to handle my randomness, silliness and opinionated personality. I do like the wild ones.
BUD: I’m looking for a girl that I can completely enjoy myself with, a girl that can have fun and enjoy herself in almost any situation-the type of person who goes with the flow and makes the best of what life throws at her instead of complaining or dwelling on things. Upbeat, fun-loving, happy people are who I like to surround myself with and what I look for in a potential partner.
What’s the best thing that could happen during the date?
MAYRA: We get totally boozed up and make some mistakes. Just kidding. The best thing that could happen is that we genuinely have a good time together.
BUD: I meet the coolest person I’ve ever encountered and am just head-over-heels infatuated with every part of her, and we somehow have a crazy windfall in which we win millions of dollars.
What’s the worst thing that could happen?
MAYRA: He turns out to be unbearably boring, in which case I will crawl out of a ladies room window and run for it.
BUD: I meet a terribly rude, self-centered brat who has nothing nice to say about anything, and during this awful experience I get attacked and killed by a gorilla that escaped from the San Diego Zoo.
La Valencia Hotel
1132 Prospect St., La Jolla
Ready oar not, the daters make a splash
Having already shared some conversation (and most of a six-pack of Coors Light) in the town car that just dropped them off, Mayra and Bud arrive at La Valencia, order cocktails at the Whaling Bar and grab a seat on the balcony. After strolling around the hotel grounds for a while, they jump back in the car and head to OEX Dive and Kayak, in La Jolla Shores.
Raven, an OEX expedition leader, helps the couple gear up and gives them a little on-the-sand training. Having declined wetsuits, they get soaked as they’re pushed out past the breakers for the trip over to the sea caves surrounding La Jolla Cove.
About an hour later, the daters return to shore, wet and smiling, and head back to OEX to change for dinner in Pacific Beach. When they arrive at the new Duck Dive on Mission Boulevard, they order shots and look over the menu. Once they’ve had a chance to enjoy their appetizers, they’re split for mid-date debriefings.
PacificSD: How’s it going so far?
MAYRA: Good. For me to meet somebody and actually feel like they can hang with my randomness and intensity has been relieving. I do like it.
BUD: Great. She’s a really cool girl, good conversation, having a good time.
What were your first impressions?
MAYRA: He kind of seemed preppy and straightedge for me, so I was a little wary at first, but getting him into a conversation put me off of that worry.
BUD: Gorgeous, very pretty girl. And then on the ride to La Jolla, just really cool, really easy to talk to-everything just flowed pretty naturally.
Is this the type of person you would normally date?
MAYRA: Initially, I would have overlooked him, because he has a bit of a subdued demeanor. The type of people I normally date tend to have a more intense personality.
BUD: Yeah, she is, for sure.
How was La Valencia?
MAYRA: The views were spectacular, even on an overcast day. And the way they decorated and the landscaping and the ocean-it just really brought it together to make it beautiful.
BUD: La Valencia was really nice. Actually, my sister and brother-in-law had their rehearsal dinner there, and a buddy of mine used to work at the restaurant. Great views, really nice romantic environment and really cool place.
OEX Dive & Kayak
2243 Avenida de la Playa, La Jolla Shores
How was kayaking?
MAYRA: It was so much fun. And it was beautiful. Being out in the water was really cool, and Raven was a very good tour guide.
BUD: Kayaking was fun; it was really cool. She had never done it before, so she really dug it.
What would your parents say?
MAYRA: My parents would probably really like him. He’s very gentlemanly, a great guy and comes off as just a very positive person. The only thing they would probably say as a negative is that he’s not a Mexican guy. My parents are very traditional Mexican Catholic people, so being a white guy is probably the only negative thing they could find about him.
BUD: My parents would totally dig her, but her parents probably wouldn’t dig me so much, because I’m not bilingual. She told me that in order for her to bring a guy home, he has to be bilingual, and therefore she hasn’t brought that many dudes home to meet her parents.
Rate your date on a scale from 1 to 10 for looks.
MAYRA: Seven or eight.
And for personality.
MAYRA: Seven or eight.
Well, he ain’t Mexican and doesn’t speak Spanish, but Bud’s still scoring a solid B-minus on Mayra’s straightedge scale. Felicidades, amigo! And the more they talk, the more she seems to like him. Who knows what could happen after a few more shots?
As their entrees arrive, the magazine crew finally leaves the daters alone. We call the next morning to see what we missed.
PacificSD: How was Duck Dive?
MAYRA: We ran into his ex-girlfriend. I guess that’s one of her spots. He handled it smoothly, though, and it turned out to be a cool place.
BUD: Duck Dive was cool. We enjoyed some good conversation over some good food and quality craft cocktails.
What did you eat?
MAYRA: We had ahi poke and a white bean dip to start. Well, actually we had Rumple Minze shots to start; Gin Mules, definitely going back for some more of those; There Will Be Bloods, which must have been a premonition; Fireball shots. Eventually, we paused on the booze for some dinner of sea bass and steak. For dessert, we had a competition on who could make the best s’more. For the record, I won.
BUD: We had the ahi poke and the roasted red pepper and bean dip for starters. The ahi was really good, and the craft cocktails we drank were even better. My favorite was the Gin Mule. For dinner we had the sea bass and the bavette [flank steak]. We also put back a couple shots of Rumple Minze and Fireball.
About face-the evening date takes a surprising turn
PacificSD: What was the best part of the date?
MAYRA: Kayaking was so much fun. I was pretty excited we got to do an outdoor adventure. It’s more my thing than dressing up and trying to be well-behaved and entertaining when you’re just sitting there across the table from each other.
BUD: The best part of the date was Mayra herself. It was great getting to know her, and I loved how easy it was for us to maintain good conversation.
What was the worst part?
MAYRA: Well, you know when I said that the worst-case scenario would be that he’d be boring? Yeah, I was way wrong. Worst- case scenario would be completely face-planting on concrete, cutting my face open, bleeding all over my blouse and him having to bandage me up. It happened. My face is swollen and cut up today.
BUD: I’ll let Mayra describe what the worst part of the date was. Let’s just say it involved driveway basketball after we were a lil’ sauced up at the end of the night.
No way! What happened?
MAYRA: After the crew left, we hung out at Duck Dive for a bit, then hit up another bar and met up with some of his friends and went to his friend’s house, where I would endure the injury.
BUD: After leaving Duck Dive, we made a stop by Red’s Saloon and had a couple drinks with some of my friends. We then ended up at my friend’s house and played some late-night driveway basketball before calling it a night.
What did you learn about yourself last night?
MAYRA: I learned that I tolerate pain pretty well. And I need to practice wearing a purse more, because I forgot it at his friend’s house.
BUD: That I am not the best s’more maker on earth, like I previously thought.
Will there be a second date?
MAYRA: I would go out with him again, but I don’t think we’re each other’s typical type. I’m not a cutesie, girly person, and I totally see him with someone like that. The guys I’m into are more bad-boy types than he is.
BUD: I’d like to think there will be. I really enjoyed myself and I think she did as well.
PacificSD’s blind daters have jumped out of an airplane, flown in a hot air balloon, ridden the wave at WaveHouse, gone indoor rock climbing at Solid Rock and paraglided off the cliffs above Torrey Pines. And on exactly zero of these would-be romantic adventures has anyone been injured...physically, anyway.
However, despite the safety measures taken on their blind date last night-life jackets, meeting in a public place, a designated driver-Mayra managed to get hurt. At least now, the aspiring Maxim model can add “Hometown Hurtie” to her list of accolades.
Nice guys may finish last (Mayra’s really looking for a “bad boy,” after all), but at least they don’t have to meet the parents and be called a gringo estúpido.
Sometimes, love just hurts...especially when you’re falling heels over head.
“It wasn’t basketball, but I’ve fallen down in court before, too.” -Lindsay Lohan
“Face-plant on concrete...talk about romancing the stone!” -Michael Douglas
“Definitely not the kind of facial I had in mind.” -Ron Jeremy
“I can’t speak Spanish, but I think I can pass as Mexican.” -Mario Lopez
“Seriously, who writes this crap?” -Danielle Steel
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